As some couples started to paired off at tables, others reported frustration, nonetheless continuing to pace back and forth across the bar.
The most striking commonality among attendees was not their shared hatred of dating apps but the way many of them answered the question, “What are you looking for?”
“A long-term relationship,” said Josie.
“I’m looking for a serious relationship,” said Desmond.
“I was sick recently, and I had to, like, crawl out of bed to get a glass of water,” said Betsy, 30, who is looking for a long-term, monogamous relationship. “And there’s nothing like feeling sick to recognize how lonely you are.”
Loneliness, though, was not the prevailing feeling at Persona. The crucible of one urgent night did have people planning to spend time together, many of them as friends.
Two men exchanged details and agreed to go clubbing together. In the bathroom, four women went around in a circle sharing their astrological signs, chatting happily even though each stall was unoccupied.
Another pair of men made plans to play pickleball. They exchanged details and agreed to get together — maybe, even, on a Friday.